Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Kenzie's Spanking Survey

Kenzie put up a survey and I wanted to participate!! So thanks to Kenzie for great questions!!!!

Also, B filled out the survey as well!!!  Check his out here.

Some of these are out of my depth because B and I are still at the start in a lot of ways, and we're long distance, and I don't have a whole lot of experience, but I'll share the best I can.

1.) Was there a certain event from your life, that sparked the spanking interest?
           I'm not really sure, I've thought about this a lot but I can't pin it on one thing. For as long as I was having sexual thoughts at all, the idea of Dominance turned me on, although I didn't know to call it that for a very long time. Having that Dominance play out by a man being willing to take me in hand and spank me was the first D/s fantasy I ever had and it was the core of my fantasies for a looooong time. I had the experience as a teenager of looking for anything that referenced spanking (like parenting books *blushing*). I really thought that made me a terrible person for a very long time until I found out that I wasn't the only person in the world who is wired this way. Thank goodness!!!!

2.) What do you most often call your HOH/Spanker? (Sir, Master, etc.)
          I call him Sir or his name. I think he might like us to explore the title Master eventually.

3.) What does your HOH/Spanker most often call you? (Young Lady, Girl, etc)
         He calls me "My devoted one". . . hence the blog title. But he also calls me Sunshine, and sometimes Sweetheart or Angel . . . when we're playing he'll call me a "minx" which always makes me blush, although I'm not sure why. Oh yeah, and Smartass . . . he calls me that a lot too.

4.) We're building a big spanko bonfire, which one implement are you bringing to toss in?
         The bath brush!!!!

5.) We all know how many punishments there are to choose from; spanking, lecturing, corner time, etc.. but what about rewards? Do you have a favorite 'reward' that is used? If not, what's something you'd like used as a reward?
   Hhhmmm . . . I know it's not exactly a reward, but I love it when he says "good girl" or any variation of that. He asked me why one time and I told him that it's one thing that he says where I know unequivocally and without question that I've pleased him . . . and I really like pleasing him.

6.) What's that one phrase, that when it's used, you know you're in trouble?
         "Watch it."  "That's enough."  "Come here."

7.) What's something you'd like to cross off your spanking bucket list? Being shy is not an option here people. ;)
           I've got a wide masochistic streak, so mine would be being spanked beyond what I want. Like being spanked hard/long enough that I actually really want it to stop (not just that I protest or whine because that seems like the appropriate thing to do) and then having to take more just because he says so.

8.) Someone comes to you, and says they just started practicing domestic discipline. What's the biggest piece of advice you can give them?
           Uuummmm. . . I'm not at the point of advising anyone else . . . anybody got any advice for me????

9.) Where is the craziest place you've been spanked?
            Craziest place on my body? Or craziest physical location? I've been spanked in a college dorm room (although that was more like patty cake), in a college dorm hallway (a birthday spanking that I enjoyed way more than they realized), and in a hotel room.  The hotel room was the only "real" spanking I've ever gotten.

10.) We talked about a spanking bucket list, now let's get a little more into it.. what about a BDSM style bucket list? What's something you'd like to cross off of that?
            Oh wow. . . this one's hard.  I feel like it's not a specific thing, it's more just that I want to have an experience where I have absolutely no control, to be used sexually just . . . completely. Not like debased, just owned entirely in a sexual experience. I don't know how to explain it. I guess it would have been easier to just think of a specific thing I want to try huh?? Like I want to try using plugs at some time in my life, that's a good one I guess, cause I won't do that by myself probably, I think it would lose it's appeal, I would want to be doing it at someone's order.

11.) Is there a punishment you thought you'd never try, but ended up trying and finding effective?
            I would never have even thought of using ice as a punishment, but it's not pleasant when it's used for punishment purposes.

12.) What is something you wish you knew before you started DD/TTWD?
               I wish I had known that it would evoke such intense vulnerability in me, I didn't know how it would light me up from the inside and awaken my desires in such a completely new way.

13.) If you could take a break from one rule, for one week, which rule would it be?
               This will probably surprise B, because it's not one I break all that often, but I would take a break from needing permission to cum.  Every once in a while I have a day where I'm just insatiable (blushing) and it's hard to have to ask on those days. 

14.) This might sound like a no brainer at first, but really think about it. If you could only have one sort of spanking in your dynamic, would you rather it be discipline or fun?
             Ooooohhh.. good question, that is really hard.  I think I would rather it be discipline, I have a deep desire for the safety that comes from having a man who will physically take me in hand.  There are lots of kinky things we could do without using spanking to still scratch the masochistic itch I get periodically or to satisfy my need to submit and his need to Dominate, but if we were only gonna spank one way, I would want it to be reserved for discipline not fun.

Bahahaha!!!  Love the pic...
but no... not me...

15.) If your HOH/Spanker messed up, and offered to let you spank them, would you? Why/Why not?
                  I don't think so, I honestly don't think I could take myself seriously enough to do it.  I just really don't have that kind of a Dominant streak. I have a very big personality and sometimes even a dominant personality in the right group, but as far as having that over a single person . . . I just don't have it in me, I'm pretty sure I'd just feel silly.

16.) What is your favorite form of aftercare?
                  Cuddling. I've said to B, after he punishes me, "I just want you to hold me." It's really hard for me that we're long distance when I'm in trouble because I just want to be as close to him as possible and that's hard when you can't touch each other.

17.) How was DD/spanking brought up to you, or how did you bring it up to your partner?
                Welp . . . we met on a spanking chat site . . . sooooo yeah . . . 'nuf said.

18.) If your spanker could use only one implement from here on out, what would they use?
                 I think he would say his cowhide leather belt . . . and I would support that decision.

19.) Do you have a favorite pair of panties to wear when you know you're going to be spanked? If so, what are they?
                We're not there yet, so I don't know.  I don't think my panties would last very long if I was going to be getting spanked, so I'm not sure it would matter very much. Cute ones though, definitely cute ones.

20.) Unfortunately/fortunately (depending on how you look at it) mind reading hasn't yet been perfected. What's something you want your HOH/Dom/Spanker to know? (For example, don't be afraid to spank harder, or something along those lines.) Don't be afraid, spill!
               The times he thinks he needs to calm down first, or not push me too hard, I wish he would just push or say what he's thinking without editing or filtering. I sometimes just want to tell him, "I can take it, you don't have to worry about being too hard on me or being too harsh" I wish he would expect more of me than I expect of myself.

This one is my absolute favorite . . .
And how can you not love this???
I know it's a loose connection, but
I think it's soooo cute.

*Bonus Question (just because it's fun)- Is there a picture (spanking, dd, Ds, etc related) that you just really love? If so, let's see it!*
My profile pic is my absolute favorite . . . but I'll share a few that I especially like.

She just looks like she's in trouble, not
sure why but this pic pushes my buttons.
Strong hands get me every time, and
the fact that it's tangled in her hair,
that's a pretty big turn on for me.

Strong hands again . . .

Until next time,
His devoted one


  1. Love, love, loveeeed reading this! Great answers. I'm so happy B answered as well, can't wait to go check it out.

    Great picture choices also. ;)

    1. Thanks Kenzie!!! And thanks for putting up the questions. I'm really glad B did it with me as well. . . it was fun.

  2. hi bekah! i loved this and your answers. i'm going to do the same survey on my blog for tomorrow. ok, so your pictures. omg. they got me too. esp your favorite one. this was a really fun post, thanks for sharing it with us! hugs, m.

  3. Hey thanks m!!! I'm glad you enjoyed it . . . it was fun to fill out!


  4. Fun answers. LOVE the pic "be a good girl or I put away my belt." Hahaha! I love and hate the belt!

  5. agreed... i think i would hate the belt for punishment... but i've never been punished with a belt... just spanked sort of "just because"... and.. well.. I liked it... alot.

    Thanks JG!!

  6. Great survey! Spanking is only a part of the thing that my Ella and I do, but it's an important part. And nothing but nothing gets her as wet as my belt.

    1. Hey Rafe!!! Sorry it took me so long to reply. . . I read your comment and then forgot to actually reply. I'm so glad you happened over here, I'm enjoying you and Ella's blog. And I'm with Ella, the belt just flips a switch inside of me.